The Sound of Silence

That is what we are hearing....the sound of silence.

We know Nairobi has requested further medical testing or clarification (take your pick) but they won't tell us what...and we have asked..believe me we have asked.

If you look up vague in the dictionary you will see a picture of CHC Nairobi!

We have asked our MP to help us - to say he is unwilling is an understatement! I am still scratching my head trying to figure out how an elected official dismisses one of its constituents at the drop of a hat.

All we want to know is what test they are doing. It's not to much to ask.

Our agency doesn't get to see the medical instructions but we are hopeful the immigration doctor will tell them what is needed sometime this week or early next when they take our boy for his appointment.

We are fearful it is a sputum testing which takes 8 weeks to get results....8 weeks! If this is the case it will be sometime in 2011 before we get to bring him home....a fact which has me absolutely losing my mind...

I have been asking a lot of Why? questions lately.

Why is this happening to him?

Why is this happening to us?

Why does no one seem to want to help us get answers? (and by this I mean our government officials)

Why, after all we have been through, does there seem to be more shit being dumped on us?

Many scenarios have crossed our mind as to what we can do, but until we know what test they want we can't implement any plan of action.

If anyone has any ideas as to what we can do, we'll take them.

The Bed

It took a long time to decide what type of bed to buy for our wee boy.

Knowing he was getting older as the days go by, we just didn't want to spend the money on a crib he might use for a month or two or may never use at all.

We didn't want to put him right in to a big boy bed either because we know the kids in the Foster home in Ethiopia stay in crib type beds for a long time and are used to them.

So, we searched The Internets and The Googles for beds.

There were lots (actually the amount of kids stuff is redonkulous) to choose from but we really wanted a bed that would eventually be his big boy bed too.

Finally, after a recommended site from friends we found the perfect bed for our boy!

Here are the adventures of putting said perfect bed together!

1. Always read the directions first.

2. Get some help from friends

3. Make sure you are patient and don't lose any screws or you will be "screwed"!

The final product




This bed is low which we wanted in case he decides he wants to get out but still gives him the comfort of being in a crib.

You can also have both guard rails on, or just one or none.

When he has outgrown the toddler bed, we can convert it to a twin bed with the guardrails as the end of the bed and the back of the bed as the head board.

We both cried when the bed was put together...it is so teeny weeny!

Now we just need him home so we can put him to bed in it.

P.S. More room pictures to come but we are still waiting on a couple of items. Just wanted to give you a teaser!

Edit - I got the bed here Lusso Baby

Edit, Edit - O.k. I just looked online and they aren't showing the bed anymore.

This bed is called - DaVinci Elizabeth II Convertible Wood Toddler Bed in Espresso

Muwah! I love You All!!!

Oh big hugs and kisses to you all!!!

Thank you so much for the lists!

I can't even tell you how much I appreciate it - like ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((this)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) much!

Now, I am going to compile them all and start my shopping.

My mom is coming to town for a visit next week and I am going to put her and Yvan's momma to work helping me shop!!! Hee!

Also, ordered a toddler bed that converts to a double bed and a dresser for Ade's room.

This is a huge step people! It was so hard to press the "confirm your order" button because I am used to living in a state of paranoia but I did it!!!

P.S. Shelley - I loved all your emails and your excel spread sheet -AMAZING!

Seriously, I love you all so much!!!

The Cake That Made Me Cry

Our staff has a get together every year in the summer for a BBQ and pool party - this year the rain managed to stay away long enough for a bite to eat and a dip in the pool.

We were surprised with a celebratory cake for passing court by one of the gals who works with us.

She is very talented when it comes to cake making

and this cake.....

Made. Me. Cry.

Notice the soccer ball for South Africa ('cause of World Cup), Mount Kilimanjaro, the pyramids, and a little desert.

The best part is the little heart for Ethiopia - that just got me!! And so did the little Ethiopian flag and the cute baby giraffe!!!

I pretty much had the ugly cry in front of everyone.

Kristie, the oh-so talented, cake lady showing her cake! Thank you so much Kristie - you are an amazing friend!

I have been pretty quiet on the adoption front lately. It has been hard to blog about my wait knowing there are good friends of mine going through the hardest time right now. I think of these lovely ladies every day - Steph, Lyndsey, Colleen, Alex, Jen, Bonnie and Kelly (and anyone else who might be caught in Oromia) - know there are so many of us sending love and hugs to you!

It has been almost 7 weeks since we passed court. I did really good the first 4 weeks - there were smiles all around.

Now. the anxiousness is creeping back in.

Last week I was a festival of water works again.

Enough.

We are ready.

Ade needs to come home.

Our docs should be headed to Nairobi next week if all goes well....and then the final step begins.

Immigration.

It used to take 3 weeks to get a visa and now the new norm is anywhere from 6 to 16 weeks.

I'm not going to set myself up for failure by hanging on to the 6 weeks but I'm also hoping with every fibre of my being it won't be the 16 weeks.

As for Ade's room - well..that is a work in progress. I;m having a hard time with it.

I started cleaning it out - moved the office downstairs and just need to get the big furniture out.

Shopping still needs to be done and I really want to get out and do it but I am still so scared something will go wrong. So I am waiting a bit before I really get into it but I promise to post pictures when it is all done.

It has been a long haul and we both feel like our hearts still need protecting. Logically we know he is coming home but when is the bigger question.

Honestly, until he is in our arms, we won't be able to rest easy.

Our Boy is a Fighter

We found out this afternoon that our wee boy was in the hospital again over the weekend.

Fighting pneumonia again.

He is a fighter! Our boy is a fighter.

We are told he is doing well since he got his meds and is now back in the foster home.

But we are worried and scared.

This is why I have been such a basket case lately (if you hadn't noticed)!

Since the first time we found out he was in the hospital back in August...his getting sick again has been a constant worry.

Our wee man is tiny! He is 10 months old and weighs around 15lbs...tiny!

But he is a fighter!!!

My anxiety level is now absolutely operating at LEVEL 5! That is high! Right Sandi and Cheryl!

We have been told court application has been made! This is good!

What would be even better is an actual date. We may have that too....but they aren't 100% on that so won't commit...

WE. NEED. A. COURT DATE.

Please!!

Our son, our little fighter...he needs to be home with us.

Hello!

We were gone away for a little while..but now we are back.

and let me tell you what a homecoming we received...new photos AND video!!

You should have seen the tears at our house last night!!!

More to come when we are recovered from our holiday :)

Update on Ade

We just got news that Ade is doing much better today and has been transferred back to the Foster home!!!

The foster home administrator was very pleased at how well he was responding to treatment...he will be getting 5 injections of antibotics, one each day for the next 5 days!

We are relieved but still so anxious!!!

Baby boy we can't wait to get you home!!!

Thank you to everyone for your kind words, prayers and positive energy!! It is working - keep it coming!

A Haiku By BCMommy

A Haiku on Sucking


Adoption Waiting
It sucks like a sucky thing
but you will get through

By BCMommy

O.k. Peeps! It seems the challenge is on!!! Don't let the fact the she is from B.C. deter you!

I want to see your Haiku's and oh ya, I will do one too!

Pretty please, I need the laughter right now! Its been a long 19 months!

(I 'm totally trying to guilt you all...is it working?)

P.S. BCMommy has a real name but since her blog is private I am not posting it

Edited to add - I will be posting the Haiku's daily and whoever makes me laugh the hardest gets a prize...a framed version of the photo below :) come on...you know you want it!