Thursday, April 16, 2009

The Scoop

We have had quite a few people call and email asking us how we are doing!

THANK YOU!

Honestly, it is so amazing to know that people care so much and are thinking of us right now.

So, I thought I would do a little post letting you know what we know as of today.

1. We have not been matched with our child yet - this means the child meant for us and vice versa has not come along yet and so we wait.

2. Our agency director is going to Ethiopia tomorrow for a few weeks. She is hoping to work on referrals - will we be in the next batch? We don't know - they can't tell us because they don't know and even if they did know they still couldn't tell us as it needs to come to our provincial office first and then to our social worker and then to us.

3. We know we are right there very close to the top of the list - but how long it will take is unknown - 3 weeks, 1 month, 2 months your guess is as good as ours.

4. What are we going to do? We have come this far - we can go a few more months. There are days where I absolutely feel like I CAN NOT go one more day but Yvan is strong and reminds me of the alternative which is never having kids and that won't do! So we wait!

5. We are both sad - sad it is taking so long but we will make it - especially with all the love we get from all of you :)

6. Not only should Kleenex start paying me residuals for the usage and advertising but I am now going to talk to JELLO PUDDING because it has become my comfort food this week - there's nothing like a little J-E-L-L-O (chocolate - 'cause that's how I roll) when you are feeling weepy to make you smile....seriously - you should try it! You WILL smile while you eat it. You can't help it. Makes you feel like a kid again.

That is the scoop!

22 comments:

Dancin' Momma said...

Thanks for the update! I have been thinking of you. It is so hard, because no words ease the pain and saddness.

Thinking of you lots and lots

Julia said...

Hoping for lots of referrals for all the Canadian waiters.

And if you top the chocolate pudding with Cool-whip it's only that much better.

RJ said...

Hey there...thanks for the lunch yesterday...I really enjoyed our visit...I hope I didn't make you feel sad...hope we can do it again soon...I'll be thinkin of you and Yvan. Have a good trip...

K_I_T_ said...

I used to be into the chocolate, but overdosed on that last month....now onto butterscotch....mmmh..better go get something like that to munch on while i blog for awhile!! Glad to see you posted, I think it helps knowing others are here to support us in our down times....
You come into my thoughts lots, and hoping that the referrals are going to come in by the armfuls this next couple weeks.

Keltie said...

Sunshine also works as a pick-me-up. For me anyway. Chocolate is good too. Chocolate pudding is really good with oreo crumbs and pecans. Just saying. I think about you daily.

Dianne said...

Thinking of you lots, girl.

Oh, and I am soooo stopping for pudding on my way home tonight!

lyndsey said...

HUGS and PINCHES from me. ok I like to pinch, maybe it doesn't help you feel better but it def helps me!!
You are amazing and you can do this......IT WILL BE WORTH IT!!!! I have a feeling about your referral and I cannot WAIT to celebrate it's arrival. Hang in there Chickita you are so close.

Tova said...

I think you are amazing. You have gone through this with so much honesty, strength and grace. (i know you probably don't think so, but you have!) I am aching for you. Know that there is a whole community that helps to share the grief, have faith for you when you don't, and celebrate when it's time.

Ramona said...

Hey you. I am out of things to say but yes- R is off to Ethiopia... and she knows who you are... and I'm still waiting with you... and thinking that you should use real whip cream instead of cool-whip (I'm not a fan of eatable oil products even though I'm lactose intolerant)

Come on sunshine and referrals!!

{{{HUGS}}}
Ramona

Anonymous said...

Great to get an update. I really admire how positive you remain through all of this. Very inspiring. I bet you are meeting baby Eden right now!
Natasha

Carolyn said...

Glad to hear from you. Eat all the pudding that you need to- whatever works right? I wish I could say something to make all the pain go away but I can't. Just know that I am here to listen anytime- vent, cry, scream- I will listen to all of it!

Think of you often

Carolyn

Jody said...

We are going to help R find proposals for you guys (and all the other long waiters) ;o)

Like you say, you can do this, and I know it WILL happen.

I have to say, add a few oreo cookie crumbs and cool-whip. Now you have chocolate cream pie.

hazel said...

Chocolate cures all.

CinnamonOpus said...

Not much I can say to make things better, but sending many hugs. Will send out prezzie when we get back from vacation. Will send pudding if required.

Anonymous said...

I would take cheesecake over pudding, personally, but hey... whatever works. :)

Janice said...

Mmmm Chocolate pudding. I just bought some this week too.

Hang on, it's been one long ride for you guys but the pay off will be huge.

Still thinking of you.

Janice

Tracey said...

I think of you everyday Rana wondering if this is the day. I'm sending real positive vibes to you that your referral is in the next batch. I really understand the sadness and frustration but it WILL come and you and hubby will be such an excellent mommy & daddy!
Big hugs,
Tracey

Kristen, Dave, Katelyn & Jon said...

You guys will be next for sure Rana - I can't wait to hear the announcement!! I know what you mean about the comfort food, my new addiction are the Eating Right ice cream sandwiches from SafeWay - I could eat three in a row!

Sherri said...

Thanks for the update - we think of you continually ...
Sherri

Chad, Laura, Sara and Seth said...

Sorry I have not been around lately. I am in a bit of a stand still with all of this right now. Just wanted you to know that I think about you often and hope you hear great news very soon.

Laura

Sharla said...

I've been thinking of you. I felt let down at your referral not being in that last batch...I can only fathom what you felt.

You will make it. I know you will because you have made it this far and because at the end of this road, you will be called "mommy" and you will enter the parenthood club and that is what you have been wishing for for so long. You have shown how strong you are to make it this far and you can make it. One minute, one hour, one day at a time until...

Rowan Family said...

Hang in there kiddo - it WILL happen - and it will be the right child for you.

hugs from someone who's bin there and dun that...

Nicky