Friday, November 5, 2010

Confession Friday

I confess we found out today Nairobi wants further medical testing done on our son.

I confess I am confused as to why!

I confess I do not understand the Immigration system and how it works.

I confess it makes me mad our child will not be home with us anytime soon.

I confess I am disappointed in my country, our goverment and how they treat its Canadian Citizens at this moment.

I confess I am not sure I have the energy to go on any longer.

41 comments:

Carey said...

I cannot believe this, yes it is crazy. Not sure I get alot of stuff about this adoption journey except knowing we are all ready to be parents. I am so sorry, thinking about you guys.

Fahlman World said...

Hang in there Rana <3 <3... How can I help? Please just let me know. You are tired... but I am not. You are not in this alone. : ) Diane Fahlman

Shawn and Laura said...

Oh I am so sorry!!!

BCMommy said...

This is so incredibly frustrating!!!! Is there no way CAFAC can find out what further testing he is needing?? This is just ridiculous! What in the what is going on in that office in Nairobi????
Arg!

Claire

Proudmama said...

I'm so very sorry for you and your husband. This seems so ridiculous and for situations like this why can't parents just sign off something saying I accept the child as they come, medical conditions and all and just process that darn visa. How are they servicing our country and future citizens by holding this process up for so long. It's crazy. Take care of yourself,
Courtney

Keltie said...

Let us (your community) carry you right now Rana. Nairobi is ridiculous. I can say that because I have seen it with my own eyes and lived it with my own life too. *hugs*

Lisa and Jason said...

Oh Rana, I can't believe this. . . I am so sorry. Please know we are thinking about all of you and will do anything we can to help.

Janice said...

The pain this is causing you infuriates me. I am so sorry. I too wish there was something I could do to help - to help you fight to get him sooner.

You are never far from my thoughts.

Your crazy 13 yr. old cat sounds hilarious. We had to put our cat down the day before we left for Addis. She started going down hill the week before and took a terrible turn for the worst. It was so sad and hard and the timing was terrible and there was so little time to mourn. Now that we are back, I keep thinking I see her out of the corner of my eye.

D Dae said...

Can I do anything for you? Anything? Please let me know. I am crying right now, my heart is just breaking for all of you. :(

crystal bevans said...

Rana

My heart is broken for you... sorry to hear of yet another set back. Know we think of you two often and pray things progress forward soon.

Blessings
Crystal

Karen said...

This is unconscionable. So unfair to you, Yvan and Ade.

I'm so very sorry.

Karen

CinnamonOpus said...

If I knew whose cages to rattle for you, I would -- loud and long and hard. I am beyond words now, just inarticulate rage on your behalf.

If there's anything I can do to help, please don't hesitate. Even if it's just to chat.

june said...

I will not type what I yelled out loud when I saw this post. But I will tell you that it rhymed with "mucking falls."

I have no words. You will find the energy though, I swear you will, and if you need it we will all come over there and help drag you across the finish line if necessary.

Brendan and Mary said...

It is truly unbelievable. If there is anything at all that I can do please just say it. I am so angry and so devastated for you. It is truly unbelievable. You are an amazing mother and you will hold your sweet baby soon. Do whatever you need to do to get through these days. So many people are thinking about your family and sending all of their prayers, hopes, and dreams your way.

turgeonexpansion said...

A little corny but fitting...

lean on me, when you're not strong
you know the rest....

heather Blake said...

oh crap!! How stupidly long this crap is taking.....
I'm so sorry. I am waiting right here with you.
Heather in Edmonton

Ramona said...

This. makes. me sick. And mad. Hello?! How many times can CIC do this without letting the parents know what is going on?! Seriously. You are his parents. I hated when they did this to us and pretended they couldn't get us more info-which in the end they did get... He's your son...... I just want to cry for you and for Ade.

Ramona

ChristyCanuck said...

Is this the blog of yours that I can use the f-word on? Even if it's not, I want to anyway. Okay, I'm saying it here in Ontario.

Rana, I am so sorry. This is the most wretched nonsense.

Chris

Stephanie said...

Sooo angry at our government!! Our government, the one that takes half of the money we work so hard to make.....things need to change...just wish we could find a way to make that happen.

You know I'm here to listen anytime.

Sending you all the strength I can.

Steph

Anonymous said...

Oh Rana, I am so sorry to hear this. Can we write, call, yell, advocate on your behalf? If you think it might help - just say the word. Til then I will send strength.
Jen

Melissa said...

I am incensed on your behalf! Who even cares if Ade has some sort of medical something-or-other! He's already your son. And he needs to be here. With you. Now. Sheesh!

Ricki said...

Oh Rana, I am so so so sorry! How maddening that it is our very own country holding you back from having your son home and in your arms! It is sad and disgusting!
Sending hugs and strength your way,
Ricki

Natasha said...

Fuck!!! I keep checking to see the good news on your blog I am just so sorry Rana. I swear that if it was possible to give you my visa that I had for my waiting child, I would. You and Ivan and Ade deserve to be together more than anyone. I am truly and deeply sorry Rana. Dig really deep, deeper than deep and find that extra mama bear strength to hold on to. It is there and you will be able to do it - but you will need the heart of a lion.
sending you all the hugs I have,
natasha

Heidi said...

Oh Rana and Yvan...

My heart just breaks for you! I really don't know what to say other than there is a sea of people who just can't wait to see you all together. Don't give up, cry when you need to and lean on others whenever you need to...

Hugs... Heidi

Magaly said...

Hi Rana,

I am sorry to hear the news. And if you are disappointed about the Canadian immigration, so am I but not for an adoption-related matter. If you want to learn more about what happen to me and my partner, check my website at: https://sites.google.com/site/welcometocanadaornot/

Hang in there; it is going to happen!

Magaly

darci said...

oh no Rana..not the news I was hoping and praying for. That sucks! I'm so sorry..hang in there..darci

Janna said...

Oh Rana, I'm so sorry that yet again, there are more delays. I just don't understand why Canada won't agree that right now, your son would be better off in your arms. Boo Canada, boo.

Anonymous said...

You guys are still in our thoughts and prayers! If there is anything you need all of us to do, we will!(email, phone someone or sign something) This is insane!

Shannon Simms

Poirier said...

Rana, I am so sorry to hear this. I just don't understand! If there is anything we can do (write letters, march in front of City Hall, or anything you can think of - please let us know!) I think there are a number of us here who would be willing to do just about anything for you and for Ade. If you know how all of this energy wasted in frustration could be put to better use - please just ask!

gablynn said...

I think everyone has said it all. But I am going to sat it as well:I am deeply sorry for the pain you are feeling at this moment. There are so many people on your side. You are not alone....
Debbie.

Dana said...

I can't believe there is another set back. We are all thinking about you. If we can do anything, Please let us know.

Natalie and Chris said...

all I want to do is give you a hug and listen. ((hugs))

Alex said...

Oh Rana,
I'm pretty much out of this scene now but Steph mentioned the ridonculousness so I thought I would stop by and say WTF??? SRSLY, WTF???
I hope this resolves itself quickly. If you ever need some buddies to go and taser/baseball bat the problem people, I'm available and I'm sure I can round up some others with misplaced rage. xoxo

hazel said...

Aaaw SH$T!!!

This is not the news I tuned in for. I second everything the others have said. If there are letters to be sent, I'm in.
Rana, you and Yvan will be amazing parents to Ade. Somebody said we'll help drag you over the finish line. I'll be there with my cleats on.

Dianne said...

Oh Rana, I can't believe this. If my anger at the way our government treats children and their families could speed things up, you would all have been together so long ago. It is so horribly inhumane. I'm so sorry you are all being put through this horror.

Julie said...

Do not understand. What can we do to help?

Liz said...

I'm so very sorry! And I confess I can't understand what could possibly be taking so long! Sending you strength and peace...

Shannon- said...

I just found your blog and I'm sick over this. Agony. Hugs to you all.

Nicole Bellefleur said...

I'm praying for you and your son...

Nicole xo

downes said...

UNBELIEVABLE!!! If there is anything we could do to help, emails, letters, etc. let us know. This makes no sense at all. Canadian Immigration is ridiculous and not just the office in Nairobi.

andrea said...

I have come here so many times, each time hoping that I'll know what to say. I'm no closer to feeling like I know what I should say, so I'll just tell you that I am thinking about you guys. A