"Adoption is not for the feint of heart!"
I have heard this 1000 times and I have probably said it myself to other people 1000 times.
It. Is. True.
Especially as we are into our 20th month of waiting it seems to be ringing even truer.
I wish someone had said to us when we started " Leave your control at the door please!" because than we would have managed our expectations a bit better.
Yvan and I are both used to being "in control" and making our life happen they way we would like it...I don't mean this in a selfish way...we just both have a clear idea of what we want for our life together and we have set a plan/goal in place to make this happen.
When we decide we want to do something, we set the wheels in motion to get it done. Like travelling, or business or our infertility and consequent decision to adopt.
We are both "Make-your-life-want-you-it-to-be" kinda people.
Well, that planning has been thrown for a loop! A huge loopyty-lou of a loop!
We are feeling helpless....I know of no other time in my life when I have felt so completely and utterly like there is nothing I can do to make our situation what we want it to be.
As you all know we are STILL waiting for a referral....and what do you say about this that hasn't already been said.....
It sounds as though we haven't even been matched with a child yet!!!! (please note this is me reading into emails etc. and don't have this as a confirmed fact...I am just guessing and oh-whoa-is me-ing!) Which is frustrating beyond belief and after the frustration leaves..sadness takes hold and then the tears come...I am definitely ready to be crying tears of joy not tears of angst.
Now add to the fact that we our Provincial Approval expiration is looming over our heads. In just over 2 months (Sept.11) our approval will expire.
I have been in touch with the proper authorities...I think...but can't seem to get an answer. Our Independent Practitioner told us we would have to contact our Social Worker, and our Social Worker told us to call our Independent Practitioner. ARRRRGHHH!!!
Our Provincial Approval has nothing to do with our Adoption Agency so they can't answer our questions.
Our SW told us she wasn't sure how this would need to get updated and said she would get back to us...that was 3 weeks ago and we still haven't heard from her. ARRRRGGGHHHH!
I am leery to call/email her because I know how busy she is and I don't what to come across as a whack-a-do but honestly!!!!
PEOPLE.....can someone throw us a frickin' bone here!!!!
I can't sit idly by watching the days tick by knowing our approval could and might expire before we get a referral but no one will tell us what we should do to rectify the situation! If they would tell us we would do it!!
So, we sit control-less over one of the most important aspects of our life...maybe the 20 months of waiting is getting to me....maybe I am panicking for nothing...but yup....our control was definitely left at the door when started this journey...we are just starting to realize how much.
What would you do? Would you keep emailing your SW - would you contact someone higher up?
Any thoughts would be appreciated.