Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Saturday, May 5, 2012
Things That Make You Go Awwwwwwwwww!
Wee Man has been sick the last couple of days with a low grade fever and a cold.
Last night he was content to lay in our bed and watch "Curious George".
Sometimes, I worry about our bond with him. He can be so defiant at times.
I know he is just asserting his independence and trying to figure the world out on his terms.
Still, we worry...does he love us, does he need us, does he want us?
As we lay on the bed watching the movie he looked over at me and said,
"Momma, I not feel good, my tummy sick. I lay on your chest?"
He snuggled up on me and promptly fell asleep.
My heart swelled.
He loves us, he needs us, he wants us.
Last night he was content to lay in our bed and watch "Curious George".
Sometimes, I worry about our bond with him. He can be so defiant at times.
I know he is just asserting his independence and trying to figure the world out on his terms.
Still, we worry...does he love us, does he need us, does he want us?
As we lay on the bed watching the movie he looked over at me and said,
"Momma, I not feel good, my tummy sick. I lay on your chest?"
He snuggled up on me and promptly fell asleep.
My heart swelled.
He loves us, he needs us, he wants us.
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Addendum to Today's Post
There is one habit I think should have been on the Marc and Angel's list that isn't. So I'm going to add it myself.
It is something I have become very good at over the years...but I wish I wasn't.
I'm sure I'm not alone on this one either.
Arms Length Relationships - holding people at bay because you have been hurt in the past. Forgetting that although someone may have hurt you, the new person standing in front of you deserves a clean slate. Relationships are hard. They take work and need to be nurtured whether it is a friendship, a partner/spouse, a family member or your children.
I have become an expert at holding people at arm's length. I only want them to see the strong, happy me because if I show them my vulnerable side (except when I cry at the gym those people get to see THAT side of me)....maybe they won't like me very much anymore. Having had my heart stomped on in the past by various individuals, I am very cautious about letting people in. Sometimes I open myself up and then if I think there is even whiff of them "abandoning" me I clam up. I turtle in my little shell and avoid them. I give a little bit of me when maybe I should just give a lot and see what happens.
Relationships can only be as great as you let them be. If you don't take a chance...well you might just be missing out on something special.
Note to self: take my own advice.
It is something I have become very good at over the years...but I wish I wasn't.
I'm sure I'm not alone on this one either.
Arms Length Relationships - holding people at bay because you have been hurt in the past. Forgetting that although someone may have hurt you, the new person standing in front of you deserves a clean slate. Relationships are hard. They take work and need to be nurtured whether it is a friendship, a partner/spouse, a family member or your children.
I have become an expert at holding people at arm's length. I only want them to see the strong, happy me because if I show them my vulnerable side (except when I cry at the gym those people get to see THAT side of me)....maybe they won't like me very much anymore. Having had my heart stomped on in the past by various individuals, I am very cautious about letting people in. Sometimes I open myself up and then if I think there is even whiff of them "abandoning" me I clam up. I turtle in my little shell and avoid them. I give a little bit of me when maybe I should just give a lot and see what happens.
Relationships can only be as great as you let them be. If you don't take a chance...well you might just be missing out on something special.
Note to self: take my own advice.
Marc and Angel Hack Life
I follow this blog called Marc and Angel Hack Life.
The posts always seem to be exactly what I need on the given day I read them.
Weird right?
Todays' post is - "20 Habits Holding Good People Back."
There are certainly some bad habits I have that are holding me back.
These are the ones that jumped out me immediately:
Chasing after those who don’t want to be caught. – Do not chase people. Be you, do your own thing and work hard on your passions. The right people who belong in your life will eventually come to you, and stay.
Here I am completely guilty. I chase after people. I want to be friends with most people I meet (call it "Only Child Syndrome"). I know not everyone will want to be friends with me. That's cool. The people I do become friends with I hold dear to my heart (even if I don't always show it like I should). Sometimes, I hold people close to me that I shouldn't. People who are friends with me out of convenience or who only need me when times are tough (meaning they call me when they need to unload all of their bad things )and not so much when times are fun. I'm learning to know when to let go and not chase after people. It isn't easy and it can be painful to let someone go.
Not asking for help when you know you need it. – No matter how far you’ve gone down the wrong road, you can always turn back. Be STRONG enough to stand alone, SMART enough to know when you need help, and BRAVE enough to ask for it.
Can I get an Amen! How many of us don't ask for help when we need it? I bet a lot! I know I am one. I have gotten better at this though. In fact, I even ASKED for help packing our house up. My mom is going to come out give me a hand! Yay Mom!
Holding on to things you need to let go of. – Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things in life that should not be. Sometimes letting go is what makes us stronger, happier and more successful in the long run.
I think this ties in to "Chasing after those who don't want to be caught" but it also can be letting go of an idea about yourself - like you aren't good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, strong enough, skinny enough etc. etc. We have all thought things like these about ourselves at one time or another. They can be self destructive if we let them control our lives. I am learning that I am good enough just the way I am. Imperfections and all!
It is also letting go of THINGS. I just purged our house of years of stuff we had been hanging on to. Things we were given as wedding gifts and had never used. Articles of clothing we thought maybe we would one day fit again (who were we trying to kid) and items that for some reason or another we had a strange attachment to even though they were of no use or benefit to us anymore (i.e. a lava lamp). Many things were donated because they were still good for some one to use (i.e. a lava lamp), other things were recycled and a few things thrown in the garbage because they just weren't worthy of being donated or recycled (think VHS tapes here - did you know they can't be recycled and I tried to give them to Value Village but they weren't having it).
Focusing on the negative. – Positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best thing to happen every time, it’s about accepting that whatever happens is good for this moment, and then making the best of it. So stay positive, and hold on to what’s truly important. Let your worries go. No matter how you look at it, some outcomes just don’t make sense right away. Choosing to carry on with your goals through this uncertainty is what matters.
My husband will tell you that I can be a serious Negative Nelly. I have a bad case of "The Worries" and I tend to catastrophize things. In my head I am know I am doing it, but my irrational self at the time it is happening always wins. Case in point - selling our current house is stressing me out beyond belief - I think it will be CHRISTMAS before we have it touched up and looking good enough to sell. It will probably be more like a week or so. I try to focus on the positive...really hard....but sometimes that little devil on my shoulder knows exactly what to say to push my buttons. This will probably always be a work in progress for me.
What is a bad habit holding you back?
The posts always seem to be exactly what I need on the given day I read them.
Weird right?
Todays' post is - "20 Habits Holding Good People Back."
There are certainly some bad habits I have that are holding me back.
These are the ones that jumped out me immediately:
Chasing after those who don’t want to be caught. – Do not chase people. Be you, do your own thing and work hard on your passions. The right people who belong in your life will eventually come to you, and stay.
Here I am completely guilty. I chase after people. I want to be friends with most people I meet (call it "Only Child Syndrome"). I know not everyone will want to be friends with me. That's cool. The people I do become friends with I hold dear to my heart (even if I don't always show it like I should). Sometimes, I hold people close to me that I shouldn't. People who are friends with me out of convenience or who only need me when times are tough (meaning they call me when they need to unload all of their bad things )and not so much when times are fun. I'm learning to know when to let go and not chase after people. It isn't easy and it can be painful to let someone go.
Not asking for help when you know you need it. – No matter how far you’ve gone down the wrong road, you can always turn back. Be STRONG enough to stand alone, SMART enough to know when you need help, and BRAVE enough to ask for it.
Can I get an Amen! How many of us don't ask for help when we need it? I bet a lot! I know I am one. I have gotten better at this though. In fact, I even ASKED for help packing our house up. My mom is going to come out give me a hand! Yay Mom!
Holding on to things you need to let go of. – Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things in life that should not be. Sometimes letting go is what makes us stronger, happier and more successful in the long run.
I think this ties in to "Chasing after those who don't want to be caught" but it also can be letting go of an idea about yourself - like you aren't good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, strong enough, skinny enough etc. etc. We have all thought things like these about ourselves at one time or another. They can be self destructive if we let them control our lives. I am learning that I am good enough just the way I am. Imperfections and all!
It is also letting go of THINGS. I just purged our house of years of stuff we had been hanging on to. Things we were given as wedding gifts and had never used. Articles of clothing we thought maybe we would one day fit again (who were we trying to kid) and items that for some reason or another we had a strange attachment to even though they were of no use or benefit to us anymore (i.e. a lava lamp). Many things were donated because they were still good for some one to use (i.e. a lava lamp), other things were recycled and a few things thrown in the garbage because they just weren't worthy of being donated or recycled (think VHS tapes here - did you know they can't be recycled and I tried to give them to Value Village but they weren't having it).
Focusing on the negative. – Positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best thing to happen every time, it’s about accepting that whatever happens is good for this moment, and then making the best of it. So stay positive, and hold on to what’s truly important. Let your worries go. No matter how you look at it, some outcomes just don’t make sense right away. Choosing to carry on with your goals through this uncertainty is what matters.
My husband will tell you that I can be a serious Negative Nelly. I have a bad case of "The Worries" and I tend to catastrophize things. In my head I am know I am doing it, but my irrational self at the time it is happening always wins. Case in point - selling our current house is stressing me out beyond belief - I think it will be CHRISTMAS before we have it touched up and looking good enough to sell. It will probably be more like a week or so. I try to focus on the positive...really hard....but sometimes that little devil on my shoulder knows exactly what to say to push my buttons. This will probably always be a work in progress for me.
What is a bad habit holding you back?
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
A Few Precious Minutes
No, this is not an ad for our local newspaper.
This is a few precious minutes of alone time.
More often than not Wee Man wakes up before us. He is, shall we say, our alarm clock. I can count the number of times on one hand where we have had to set our alarm since he came home.
He is an early riser - 6:30 or so.
I am a moderately early riser - 7:30 or 8.
The Husband is a sleep until noon kinda guy.
Anyways, I am getting way off track here.
The one thing I miss, at times, is my morning ritual. Waking up, letting the dog(s) out, making a cup of tea and reading the paper consisted of my pre-parenthood routine. Alone, by myself, with no one else around. A time to gather my thoughts, clear the cobwebs out of my brain, wipe the sleep from my eyes and and just sit. (Oh and read the paper too)
My "Sharpening my Saw" time if you will - if you are unfamiliar with this term of mine, it simply refers to my recharge time - I need it and crave it for my sanity. It is something I have always needed, this is not new by any means.
This morning I woke up at 7 and to my surprise the wee lad was still soundly sleeping. So I crept downstairs all quiet like, so as not to wake him, and made myself a cup of tea and read the paper.
Do hear that?
That, my friends, is the sound of silence!
And IT! Well, it is delightful!
Aaaaaaah!
It lasted 10 minutes and then I could hear the little dude crawl out of his bed and turn on his light.
The day has just begun.
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